Try not to USE the Word TRY! to Gain the Power of Communication.
Try is amongst the most misunderstood word. “Try, try, try again” is a quote that we all grew up with and we have heard it time and again. Yes, it means to persist, and not to give up too early or not to get disheartened due to setbacks and failures. This usage of the word “TRY” is motivational and hence good.
I will try to pass in first class, I will try to accomplish the targets, I will try to come on time, etc are in reality reflects that the person is ‘not confident’ and is ‘uncertain’. The word “TRY” used in this context actually means nothing or demonstrates a defensive behaviour on the part of the user.
Here the word ‘TRY’ is like a ‘cat on the wall’ statement as you really do not know which side of the wall the cat will jump the right, the left, forward or backwards. Try is a neutral statement and as such does not carry the conviction of a positive YES or a negative NO. So the statement indeed enables the user to hide under a mask by not letting you know the true intention.
In our daily life we do come across a lot of individuals who use this word TRY often. The frequent use is probably due to ignorance of the consequences of such unintended usage. The word TRY does not communicate the definitive step to the mind and hence the mind does not know what to do really. The word TRY is dangerous in that it has no commitment or ownership to the action even within the individual. Hence he or she may end up as an average or a poor performer as the communication within the person’s mind is unsure and lacks a definite direction.
Today, take a sure step. Avoid the word TRY in your communication like you would a negative NO. Do replace it with a positive YES and see the difference for your self. A positive yes, denotes confidence and control as well as trust and concern. Your communication will have that much more dignity of purpose and supports positive thinking and action.
This is just one of the many behavioural tips that are shared with the ever growing number of people participating in awareness to action training with respect to improving behaviours in terms of leadership, team work, customer service, interpersonal relationships, sales improvement, presentation skills, negotiation skills and the like.
SREE NIDHI S K
Oscar Murphy International
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